In mainstream educational systems, events organised by schools offer parents, children and the school itself an opportunity to improve the strained relationship mentioned on the previous page. Events such as parent teacher meetings where teachers are able to inform parents directly of the progress their child is making. More often than not the actual educational progress will be unremarkable but the social side of the confrontation can be much more important.

For a child to develop into an adult it is necessary for them to develop as a well rounded person and to appreciate the value of what they are learning and how they are learning it in the real world. If a child is socially inept at school and struggles to maintain friendships these meetings can flag this weakness in a child and a parent can appreciate the lack of self-esteem and self-confidence the child suffers from and can help to address this out of school.

There are many other more enjoyable events such as sports days or musical recitals which can give children and parents an opportunity to share a moment which will one day be a common memory and can help with the bonding process. For the extroverted children these are opportunities to display their own talents and self-confidence and so must be treated with some caution as there are also children who fear these days for the same reason.

School events should be invaluable period of reconciliation and information sharing between teachers, students and parents in an environment which will encourage parents to take greater ownership of the education of their child.